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My two friends are planning a baby shower for me and they want everyone to bring food so a potluck type party. Since my guests are bringing their own food I would like to say on the invitation 'not necessary to bring gifts'. I have not told this to my two friends because I'm not sure if it is appropriate.
To me, a baby shower is not all about gifts but about celebrating the birth of my twins whom we tried to conceive for so long.

If you feel that way it is certainly appropriate! Many many people though will probably bring gifts even if you don't have a registry or specify it isn't necessary.

Wrong - a baby shower IS about gifts. if you want to say "don't bring a gift" or whatever, fine. But it WOULD be tacky, tacky, tacky if they showed up empty handed.

You are having twins! You will need twice the stuff as most new mothers! I would suggest letting them stress over this and just enjoy yourself. Most won't mind bringing a little something to eat and most love giving baby gifts. if they don't want to, they don't have to and they probably won't. if you really feel bad, just ask them to note on the invitation that gifts are optional (although that sounds strange too . You could also pass this on as word of mouth that you don't expect gifts. Good luck and enjoy those babies! I was ttc for 18 months and went through he-- to have my boy; you will truly appreciate these munchkins!

What the hell is up with your friends giving you the shower, I have done many of them and always did the food my self.. I would NEVER ask someone to bring food to a shower.. and yes it is about getting you gifts so you don't have to buy somethings your self... Your friends don't even have to cook anything, everything they need is in the store from a cheese platter and meat platter, fruit that is already cut up... when pp come to a shower they don't want to have to bring the FOOD... tell your friend to get a clue

No matter what people will still bring gifts, and if by chance someone follows the advice on the invitation to -not- bring gifts then they'll feel like idiots when they see that other people have brought them. so I would just leave that off the invitations.

A baby shower is a shower for baby...to shower the baby with gifts lol, that is the whole point of it! You must be pretty wealthy to not want gifts cause Lord knows -most- of what I have for baby was all from the baby shower! and I only had one baby!

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ETA: and I would think twice about the potluck thing, usually people tend to bring the same stuff. they run out of time and bring a platter of cheeses/meats/crackers or fruit. You might end up with a whole lot of the same food.

It is absolutely appropriate. another option would be to say gifts not necessary, but if you really want to bring a gift, diapers, wipes, or other baby care items are preferred.

You're absolutely right, it's the right etiquette to say "no gifts" if you're asking guests to bring food for the party. The food is the gift.

BUT, know your guests. some crowds now are really opposed to bringing food. they don't cook, don't have favorite recipes and don't know how to sort out who brings the veggies/main dishes/drinks etc. with other people. This is where you end up with 10 sad little tubs of potato salad.

If your friends are more traditional and do a lot of cooking, this could work, but the hosts need to really organize the potluck.

Otherwise, have a typical baby shower with gifts. I assume your hosts are strapped for cash, thus the potluck idea. Perhaps you can contribute a bit to the event and they can pick up some veggie and cheese trays, chips & dips from their favorite discount grocery, bake a few sweets, make some punch. That's all you need.

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